I remember my grandmother used to tell me "one man's meat is another man's poison". As I was still a young boy back then, I didn't really understand what she was trying to tell me. But through the experiences accumulated in the last ten years from both the corporate world (when I was still an employee) and now as an entrepreneur, I can finally come to terms with it. 

Society in particular is so good at labeling and pigeon-holing people that you are either a size 0, S, M, L, XL, or XXL...Of course everyone wants to be a size S or M....who in the right frame of mind would love to be size L or even XL?

And this is the crux of the matter. 

While some on the heavier end of the scale look for quick-fix methods to slim down (at the risk of jeopardising their health) as they look with envy at their feather-weight counterparts, they seem to have forgotten that everyone is uniquely different. 
Instead of wanting to conform to societal norms and proving them right, why not hold on to your ideals and continue being yourself?

Everyone has different perceptions of what is attractive and what is not. 
After all, not all men love size 0 girls. I personally know of some friends who have bucked the trend and married plump girls. And not all size S girls go for stick-thin men too. They would rather choose a burly guy for an added sense of security. Who knows if the stick-thin man would get blown away should a strong wind blow?

Jokes aside, this observation is true. Exercise at least three times a week you still must but rather than forcing yourself to be someone else and in the process, depriving yourself of life's simple pleasures is just not worth it.

For this reason alone, that's why I never advocate my clients to go on a diet. Just think about it - the word 'diet' itself already carries with it negative connotations that you are destined to have to starve and not eat anything for the next x number of months. Singapore is a food paradise. We are blessed that some of the eateries, food joints and hawker centres are even open 24/7. Our biggest challenge is not having nothing to eat but deciding what to eat! And if I were to get you to starve, your very existence on earth would be totally miserable...

Happiness is like a fleeting butterfly. The more one pursues it, the further away it flies from you. That’s why so many of us are never happy as we are always chasing after happiness as if it is a never-ending destination. Do you have to be a size S to be truly happy? No, you don't have to.

Having said that, you should still have some tweaks to your current lifestyle if you find room for improvement. But before that, you should practise the art of happiness by accepting who you are and loving the way you are now. Then only with a long-term plan (who ever said you could do a Biggest Loser and lose more than 1kg weight per week should be shot in the head as this is totally unsustainable and hazardous to health) can you proceed to unveil a more confident, beautiful you.

Talk to me if you need to. I would love to hear from you :)


P.S. I am happy being who I am. I know deep down inside no amounts of gym work nor protein shakes will turn me into the next Arnold Schwarzenegger...unless I inject myself with steroids and growth hormones but God forbid! Instead, I am content having attained a lean, toned beach body as this is more in line with the Asian physique. 


If you ask me, being a lifestyle coach definitely has its perks. My work and hobbies are intertwined. I enjoy what I do. I don't consider myself working as  I have fun doing it. 

It's difficult getting me to choose just one area I'm really passionate about, but one of my personal favourites has to be skincare. Yes, I absolutely love skincare as it makes all the difference. My past is perhaps the worst kept secret in town I guess...haha. From a pock-marked, low self-esteem teenager to the style coach I am today, I have certainly come a long way!

Like it or not, out face is probably the first thing someone notices about us. It's not the talk or the walk, but our face. Our face is our own brand. So naturally, everything starts from the face, especially confidence.


2010's fast coming to an end with only a few more weeks left. In accordance with the spirit of Christmas, I'm feeling extra generous and what better way than to share 5 steps to better skin with all my faithful readers?

With all the partying and countdowns coming, you would want to make sure you are looking like a million bucks, don't you? If you do, read on :)

Step 1: The Ever Changing Evolution of Skin

Our skin is a living organ and it does change over time. It is obvious some of us do not have our baby smooth skin anymore but fret not. If you understand the structure of skin in general, you will know that your skin can break out every 28 days. This means that you should monitor the condition of your skin and adjust your skincare regime accordingly. For ladies, don't blame it on your hormonal breakouts.

Step 2: Know Your Skin Type

As I always advise my workshop participants, look for skincare for your skin type. As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks. The same applies for skincare.

Helping participants to analyse their skin types in three simple steps in my workshops is to me, one of the greatest gift I can give them. Imagine not knowing your skin type and using the wrong skincare products all your life. That is possibly one of the worst things that can happen to you.

Step 3: Use The Complete Range

Silly as it sounds, it is best to use the complete set of skincare from one product line as they are developed to complement each other. For example, for those of you who follow the three-step system (ie. cleanse, tone and moisturise), always use the same brand of cleanser, toner and moisturiser. You will notice the difference.

Step 4: Ask For Sample Sizes

If you have sensitive skin or believe you are allergic to certain ingredients inherent in the skincare product, always ask for a sample size before you buy the actual product. The sales promoters would be more than happy to part with a sampler. After all, if you find it good, you would come back to buy the actual product! 

As a guide, give yourself fourteen days to try a new product and see if it works for you. Another useful tip would be to always read product labels and know exactly what you are putting on your face.

Step 5: Be Patient

Some skin conditions look worse before getting better. If you suspect your skin condition is not improving, seek a consultation with the manufacturer (they would be more than happy to assist through their aftersales services) or a dermatologist. 

Follow my 5 steps and get ready to put your best face forward in the new year with good looking skin. In the meantime, enjoy the rest of the December holidays :) 

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