Even though words only make up 7% of our total image score, it is still important to choose the right words when communicating with others. This is especially so because we do not live in a vacuum. Like it or not, we are surrounded by people – our colleagues, friends, families, suppliers and even strangers.

While words have the power to motivate, heal and make others feel loved; words too have the power to hurt, demoralize and inflict pain. Therefore, choosing the right words to use in any situation is an art in itself. And there lies the beauty of NLP.

NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming continues to wield a ‘mystic’ power over millions of believers since it was formally introduced by Richard Bandler and John Grinder during the 1970s.

But let the truth be said that NLP is not something reserved only for the scholarly, bright and upper-class. It is a very useful tool which we can all adapt for usage in our everyday lives as long as we know how to. Essentially, NLP is concerned with how one knows what one knows.

This in essence was the message I brought across to the staff of HK Hardware & Engineering Pte Ltd today.

Comprising the management team seated right upfront and the rest of the staff who signed up for it in the back tables, I saw many a pair of doe eyes looking at me in bewilderment.

No, I didn’t project myself as a demigod. Neither did I speak in a tongue so alien to their native Singaporean or Malaysian ears. What I did was simply lift the veil behind NLP and demystified it completely.

I’m grateful for this gift of mine which is to simplify difficult to grasp concepts into easy, bite-sized ones.




What NLP can really do for everyone who chooses to embrace the different tenets and integrate them into our daily lives is to help enhance our relationships with others. This is done through adopting the right representational systems. For example, if the speaker primarily uses visual words to communicate his thoughts, I too would choose visual words in my response to him. If he was more kinesthetic, then so would I. It is this simple. But of course, you would have to observe other types of systems too.

If you would like to unlock the power of NLP today and build better relationships with your colleagues, bosses, subordinates, family, friends or lover, contact me now.


I'm off to Tanjong Penjuru Crescent today for a lunchtime health and fitness talk. Situated in the West of Singapore among the heavy industrial estates is CSC Holdings Limited.

A listed company on the local stock exchange market, CSC Holdings Limited is Singapore's largest foundation and geotechnical engineering specialist; and one of the region's leading ground engineering solutions provider for private and public sector residential, commercial, institution, industrial and infrastructure projects.

In the vast openness of the hall (which so reminds me of my school days) where space is a luxury, I welcomed a smiley group of ladies and two gentlemen.

Had you all been here, you would also have loved the smiley faces and the giggly nature of the ladies in particular!

It was clear that the staff shared a very good camaraderie as they were all teasing one another when the final figures for the BMI and BMR were revealed. And as if afraid I would peep at their figures, the ladies actually used their hands to cover up their calculations...


But all hopes of wanting to escape my eyes quickly evaporated when it came to the execution of the bodyweight exercises. Sparing no efforts to leave anyone out except for obvious reasons such as pregnancy or too short skirts, all were invited to participate in the exercises after the demonstration by me, and subsequently one of the more gungho female staff.

Interestingly, when I asked the group if any exercised, several among the ladies asked rather innocently if brisk walking across the causeway would count. At that instant, I really didn't know whether to laugh or cry. But I consoled myself that at least they did some form of exercising :)

My definition of exercise is any form of physical activity that gets you to perspire. Only when you perspire will you expel the toxins from your body, burn calories and fats. And that's what we all want right? To look slim and pretty for the girls and have a toned, beach body for the guys!

All of us have a mental picture of how we would like our bodies to look like. The only challenge you have to ask yourself now is whether you are willing to take the first step out to get that ideal body. If you are, I congratulate you as every small step is a step closer to your destination. If you are still hesitant, then perhaps you need to ask yourself what's holding you back. Should you need help, buzz me here :)






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