3 Tips To Act Confident Even When You Are Not
I’m sure you know some people who have the ability to walk into a crowded room of unfamiliar faces and act with self-assured confidence…while the rest of us will require a little more effort and a bit more push to get there.
The good news is you are not alone.
We know confidence is essential. It will get you places, introduce you to new (and influential) people, and open opportunities you never would have come across if you just chose to stand in a corner, fold your arms, keep your opinions to yourself, or refuse to step up to a leadership role.
At the root of it all is the issue of confidence.
Confidence is all about feeling self-assured.
And interestingly, there are some things one can do to project it. And in time, as you continue to fake it, you’ll become it.
Here are 3 tips you can use to boost your confidence.
Tip #1: Pick A Role Model
We all have someone we admire for his or her specific characteristics. That someone could be a friend for his sense of humour, a colleague for her wit, or an idol (like Ryan Gosling) for his style. And we all know someone who has that confidence and charisma that everyone responds to.
Your job is to be like him.
What are his mannerisms that make him seem confident?
Does he stand tall? Does he speak clearly?
Identify his confident traits and incorporate them into your own.
Just as how novice artists look to other people’s artwork for inspiration for their own, finding your own confidence needs a booster as well.
Tip #2: Look Good, Feel Good
>I know inside my wardrobe, there are several go-to shirts or pants that will never fail me because I will receive compliments from even my Mum.
How many times have you put on your favourite dress shirt or top and felt so good?
Because when you look good, you feel good.
And when you feel good, you become more sure of yourself.
It doesn’t have to be a new wardrobe. Rather, find something that fits you so well and doesn’t make you look like a slouch. And while you’re at it, get a new haircut, start an exercise routine and follow your timeless advice to “stand tall with chest out, stomach in”.
Tip #3: Maintain Eye Contact
When talking to someone or in a group, keeping constant eye contact makes you come across as confident and interested – even when you are not.
You don’t have to stare (that’s rude). But when you are speaking or are being spoken to, look at the person straight in the eye and show that you are keen in the conversation.
Remember: At the end of the day, if you want to feel more confident, you have to act more confident.